How to Help Your Kids Become Self-Confident, Happy and Passionate
Thinking back to our school days, we were taught various subjects, we were given little guidance about which career we should follow and about. There are no excellent coaching programs in the school unless you are an athlete.Furthermore, according to recent UK government policy, all young people should have a coach or mentor, it is difficult to see how this would work in practice.
This situation is worrisome since the education sector continues to cut budget and career services.During my teaching career, I have never seen or experienced that schools, colleges and universities and, for this matter, the workplace tap into the core passions that we all are born with.
Imagine if the education system tapped into our core passions and promoted educational disciplines around those passions instead of trying to pigeonhole everyone?After working with thousands of young people, my purpose in life is to inspire and support parents, guardians and those who meet young people and coach them for a life and career full of purpose and It is fun to do this. That is why I wrote this article.
I think I love the result of what I do that makes me work with both adults and young people. I think when people come to know what is possible and they see a future for themselves. This is particularly important in what we describe as a lost generation of children.With young people I like to see what they want to do in life because it helps them to focus on their studies. What is your story going to be?
So, let’s get down to it.
I want to help you discover your child’s purpose in life and potentially your – are you ready? Remember that these exercises are best done with people under 14 because this is the time when the family unit starts thinking about further education in college and university. In addition, this practice is as valuable for your older children as 18+, with or without help.It is easy to get lost or lost sideways, without a purpose in life. So it is easy to wander and drift and very little in life. I have known hundreds of students who have attended college and university without any thought or why they are there and what they want to achieve in life.
To start trying to chat with young people in an informal environment – don’t sit them down and start grilling them because they’ll just walk – usually!As a career coach I use The Jack Canfield Success Principals and one of the most important places to start is to ask this question to your home youth.Ask them “what do you want?” The first thing is that the young person will either a) start talking or writing things down or 2) “I don’t know and shrug their shoulders”.So the next question if they get stuck, they have to ask what they do not want is poor, homeless and unemployed and just three examples.
Then ask “So if you don’t want to be poor, homeless and unemployed what would you like instead”?At this point either you or they will be writing a list. This list usually consists of ‘things’ such as cars and holidays as well as more spiritual things such as being happy and satisfied. It does not matter what the answers are right now.
Once a list arrives, ask your youth to search the Internet for the photos they want and print them. Pictures can be placed on the wall to remind them every day what they are aiming for. Some people just like a list and that’s fine. This is the first of many questions you can ask them. To work through the entire course you want to buy a book that I have written for parents and career counselors.